Zombies They walk the earth. They move from side to side, following the movements: they crawl to work, tour the stores, are distracted by pointless entertainment, doze off with drugs, and calm down with food.

They do their work, they come home and relax, maybe they get mad at the family, they eat, they sleep, they shit and they do it again the next day. And the next day. In fact, this describes how most people sleepwalk throughout their lives.

It saddens me to meet people who don’t have their own personal “thing.” Something that they are passionate about. Something that they DO, that gives them a UNIQUE IDENTITY. Something COOL.

It doesn’t have to be a colossal mission like taking down “the system,” as Tyler Durden set out to accomplish at Fight Club. It can be a way to let off steam, express your creativity, add value to your life, or simply expand your social circle. And of course that makes you interesting to girls.

So what sets you apart from the millions of other types of finance, middle managers, IT troubleshooters, small business owners, etc.? What makes you special? What is yours?
Whether it’s cooking meth in your kitchen or organizing travel groups to Al Quada training camps in Pakistan, you will be exploited and removed from the dating group shortly. For everyone else, let’s get on with the show.

  • Uncool hobbies:
  • Collecting things: stamps, beer cans of the world, insects
  • Tying fishing lures. Girls won’t find this sexy.
  • Games (WoW, Sims, Call of Duty) Incredibly popular, yes. But it is a substitute for life, not life itself.
  • Be any kind of “re-creator.” Are you seriously going to wear your Civil War lamb chop sideburns all year long?
  • Scrapbooking. How sentimental. Oh!

  • Cool hobbies girls like
  • Playing an instrument. Guitar, bass, piano, saxophone: with the exception of the accordion and the contra bassoon, almost any instrument offers multiple opportunities to get girls.
  • Dance. (Ballroom, Swing) Chuck Lidell and Evander Hollyfield got over their fear of looking spastic, and you can too. Being able to dance gives you a huge advantage over your competition. You will have fun. You will meet many girls who will take your lead with enthusiasm / You will show your grace and sophistication. Other guys will be standing with their thumbs hooked on their belt.
  • Restoration of Hot Rods (while grease and tools may not captivate girls, driving a hot car draws attention)
  • Martial Arts – A guy who can take care of himself and protect his very attractive woman. It doesn’t matter if you choose something esoteric like Iaido (the Japanese art of drawing a sword) or Silat (an Indonesian fighting style), something traditional like Shotokan karate or something modern like Brazilian Jiu Jitsu or MMA. Buy a system that appeals to you, a qualified instructor, and a good school environment. (* Personal bias: stay away from Tae Kwon Do, it’s a joke).
  • Learning a language. Stretch your brain.
  • Travel – broadens your perspective and makes you more mundane. Also, you can use your new language skills to learn in other countries!
  • Cooking- “Come to my house, I’ll cook dinner. You bring dessert.” Remember, most of the best chefs in the world are men.
  • Volunteering. As the saying goes, “when we are good to others, we are the best for ourselves.” Find a cause you can support and get involved. The more you contribute, the more you get richer.
  • Outdoor activities
    • ski
    • trekking
    • mountaineering
    • sailing, boating
    • surf
    • scuba

A note of caution: at the beginning of your learning curve, your new hobby will NOT be fun. In fact, you are likely to be irritatingly frustrated. Fun is a function of competition and that takes time. No one just goes into a new endeavor and masters it. So be prepared to last for at least 6 weeks (the duration of an introductory class) to 6 months (the minimum amount of time to develop any skills).