Don’t get caught up in your past negative experience. When your thoughts keep going back to a past negative interaction, you miss the present. Looking back while driving is dangerous. Why? You can easily take your eyes off what’s in front of you or become too distracted to make the most of your current sense of well-being and your desire to protect your health, have better relationships, and be more successful.
Do you still get upset and stressed every time you think about how your little sister talked to you during Christmas? How long do you carry the past with you? Is it for 6 months, six years, or since childhood or marriage? Was it since the last time you were passed over while others were promoted?
Here are 3 tips and ways you can use to overcome painful memories of the past. The first advice is that you have to leave behind the injustice and bitterness of the past.
While it is important to remember and acknowledge a painful negative experience, almost every person can decide when and how they would let go of that experience. Please don’t try to convince yourself that replaying the incident over and over in your mind is cathartic or educational. It’s not. Learn what you can immediately after the negative experience and then try to move on.
The second tip is to create new memories. An effective way to unseat old memories is to create new memories. If you want to overcome the negative feelings generated by friends who always put you down, it is to make new friends with more positive communication. You can also create more positive memories by becoming more active with your life. Join a club, make new friends, spend time doing something new. Make your new experiences so positive that the new memories outweigh the old memories of the past.
The third tip and way to detach yourself from negative past experiences would be to spend more time in the present moment. Mindfulness helps him channel his thoughts away from distractions and stay focused on the things he can do with the moment he has to improve his relationships. It also means that he must be careful about the amount of time he spends blaming others.
Are you suffering because of the past? Why? Why do you treat yourself like this? Some things in life don’t work out, but that doesn’t mean they have to determine the direction of the rest of your life. Forgive those who have wronged you in the past. Forgive yourself. Don’t let those who have offended you take away the energy you will need to overcome your negative interactions and make your communication with others more positive and effective!
