Just like being a father, being a grandfather is a difficult but very rewarding role. If you’ve recently had a grandchild, it would be natural to expect that your child (the new parent) will turn to you for help, advice, and support. They need you to be there, but don’t be disappointed when they aren’t as enthusiastic as you’d hope. Remember, being a new parent requires a lot of relaxation.

To keep family relationships stronger than ever, here are 5 common grandparent mistakes to avoid:

Interfering with the way their children raise their children

Times have changed and so have parenting styles. Try not to judge the big and small decisions your child makes when it comes to your own child. Even if you don’t agree with something, don’t force your opinion on the new parents. You can make a suggestion lightly, but if not, just be supportive and praise him for his efforts. Remember, your job is to be a grandfather, not a father.

Forget the word NO

People say that the difference between being a grandfather and a father is that what they do for their grandson is a choice, not an obligation. New parents will need all the help they can get, especially during the first few months. You can offer your time when you are free, but learn to say no; don’t feel obligated to spend all your time with them. The same goes for your gifts and finances.

To be competitive

Both sets of grandparents are sure to be excited about the arrival of the newest addition to the family; and many become competitive thinking “I’m a better grandmother” or “the baby likes me more than his other grandfather”. Avoid this type of thinking: it will only make our children feel alienated and your grandchild uncomfortable. Just think that the more caring and understanding adults in a child’s life, the more he will grow up to be good.

Ignore parental rules

After a few years, your grandson will begin to visit you at home more often and even begin to spend the night there. He may have different rules at home when it comes to children, but he never ignores his parents’ rules at home. If they’re not allowed sweets after 7 at home, don’t give them anything in yours and make it a secret so you look cool. Respect the rules of your home.

Avoid These Common Grandparent Mistakes for a Continued and Harmonious Family Relationship!