For some people, oral sex is a good way to develop intimacy with her. To be good at this, you need to carefully “read” her body, listen to her breathing, and watch her movements. Remember that everything you do is for your partner at that particular moment and is not based on past sexual experiences or what you see in porn movies.
Here’s what to keep in mind when you’re giving him oral sex:
(1) Pay attention
This is of the utmost importance because when it comes to having great sex, like every woman is different. There is simply no one type of technique that fits all. Some women like direct pressure that is so firm you fear it might hurt her, while others prefer tender loving care and even indirect touch. Every woman is unique, and figuring out how to effectively stimulate her sexually requires experimentation and attention.
It is unlikely that she will tell you how she wants you to stimulate her, but her body signals will “tell” you all the information and all you have to do is pay attention to these signals. You have to listen closely to the changes in her breathing, the way her skin softens and her muscles tense, the way the blood flows under the skin of her face and breasts, and the way she moans.
Through all these signs, she is telling you all the secret ways she wants to be touched and teased. It all depends on you paying attention and understanding what she is communicating to you.
But this alone is still not enough. You can do everything right. You can do all the right moves with your fingers, lips, and tongue and still drive her crazy. On the other hand, you may be following the only basic steps, but if you can tune into her “emotional channel” and stay connected to her, you can awaken the “pleasure zone” in her brain.
(2) Stay connected
Most men never really figure out how to connect with a woman’s sexual emotions. It’s a shame they don’t realize that it’s in her brain (not her vagina) where the most intense orgasms begin. Good sex for a woman is impossible if you are completely disconnected from her.
You need to feel connected to your partner; she needs to feel confident and be sure that she will not be judged or humiliated. You make those connections with her through the way you maintain eye contact with her, the way you smile confidently at her, the tone of your voice, the way you put your hands on her, and the way you hold her. .
To make her feel at ease and connected to you, all you have to do is give her a few little cues to let her know that you’re still aware of her as a whole person and not just her breasts and genitals. Look at her and make eye contact from time to time. Stop and tell her how much you enjoy doing it or how hot she is. She reaches up and strokes the side of her face and hair. She takes her hands and give them a gentle squeeze. Any gesture that can make her feel like you’re connected to her as a person will be great!
Once you do this, after a while you will notice that her body will start to relax with what you are doing and then she will progress to a state of orgasm.
(3) Push your limits
This is only applicable when she is your lover because you should never do anything to a woman that she does not consent to.
For unknown reasons, women often “resist” having their most intense orgasm. They panic when they feel that it is about to happen. Usually this will happen after she has cum a few times and is about to have a multiple orgasm. However, she feels that if she comes so hard, she won’t be able to take it, so she either squeezes her legs together or moves her hips out of the way.
But if you and she have a trusting relationship, you can try to help her overcome this limit. When she begins to squirm or resist reaching her “pleasure limit” she places the palm of her hand firmly in the center of her chest to reassure him. If you can do this gently and confidently, she will become sexually submissive and let go of her anxiety to allow you to take her to the “next level.”
To recap, you need:
(a) pay attention to your body signals
(b) be emotionally connected to her
(c) reassure her so that she can do everything possible to reach orgasm
Before we continue, there are other things to keep in mind:
(i) Make sure your hands are clean, nails clipped and clean shaven, as you may want to use your hands and mouth on her.
(ii) If he’s anxious about the taste and/or smell of his genitals, it’s probably a good idea to take a romantic bath or shower together before giving it to him.
(iii) Take your time before moving on to it. You can start by touching her non-sexual places, kissing her passionately, stroking your fingertips down her back to the nape of her neck, gently massaging her open palm and the inside of her wrists, licking and sucking on her nipples and kissing around her. navel, before sliding up between her legs.
(iv) Keep a steady pace and try not to stop. Women like constant stimulation and it’s best not to stop unless you need to go up to catch your breath. If you need to stop, replace the stimulation with your hand or a vibrator.
(v) Women can take longer than men to cum and many women are concerned about this. Whatever you do, don’t make her feel bad about this.
