I often hear of women who are with a man they would happily spend the rest of their lives with. Often, they know right away that he might be “the one.” Unfortunately, sometimes man does not have this kind of certainty. He often wants to slow down and see what happens.

Understandably, the woman will often go out of her way to patiently wait for him to come to this determination. Sometimes weeks, months, or even years begin to drag on. Sometimes she starts dropping little hints that he doesn’t pick up on. When this doesn’t work, she often begins to brood over the issue. She may start to worry that he is not as committed to her as she is to him. She may start to think that he loves him more than he loves her. And that’s usually when she just comes up and asks if there’s a future on the horizon. And sometimes she receives an answer that not only doesn’t reassure her, but confuses her even more.

I heard a woman say, “I love the man I’m currently with. We’ve been blissfully happy for about thirteen months. We have closets and drawers in each other’s houses because we often sleep over. Sometimes, it feels like if we’re almost living together. And while I’m happy that he wants to spend so much time with me, I also know that I want more. I want a real future with this man. I want to be engaged and eventually married. But every time I bring this up, he changes his mind. topic. I sincerely hoped he would pull off a ring at my birthday dinner, but it didn’t happen. And he hasn’t given me any reason to think it might happen. in the future. So last night, I couldn’t take it anymore and asked him what kind of future I was expecting him to tell me that in the very near future, he sees weddings and children and a white picket nearby. But this is not what he said. Instead, his exact words were ‘I don’t know what the future holds.’ Needless to say, this doesn’t s me satisfied. I pressed and asked what this meant. She got very frustrated and replied that it meant exactly what she said: that none of us knew what tomorrow would bring and that she just wants to enjoy today and worry about tomorrow when tomorrow comes. My girlfriend said that this is a lame excuse and that it is code for the fact that he does not want to marry me. Is it so? What do his words really mean? I will try to answer this in the next article.

Not knowing what the future holds doesn’t mean I don’t want (or don’t see) a future with you: I didn’t think this woman’s friend was necessarily correct. While some men may use this as an excuse, this is certainly not always the case. Sometimes he means exactly what he is saying, that he is not at the point in his life where he wants to think too much about the future or that he is not at the point in the relationship where he thinks about these terms.

Sometimes this has nothing to do with you or your relationship. It has more to do with your place in life or your current attitude about commitment and marriage. Other times, you may have some concerns about the relationship that lead you to wait and see how things end up. Panicking about this or questioning him to explain himself will usually only make things worse. In general, there is a better way to play it, which I will discuss now.

How to best handle this situation: You probably already know this in your heart of hearts, but if you confront him or push him, you will only make it more likely that he will continue to walk away. Stop and ask yourself if your hesitation has anything to do with you or the relationship and if any part of it is in your control. If your concern lies with your destiny in life or yourself, usually the best course of action is to strengthen your relationship as much as you can and be patient.

If he has specific concerns with your relationship, then your focus should be to fix or overcome his concerns by making the necessary genuine changes that offer him peace of mind. You probably have a better idea of ​​what’s behind his hesitation than anyone.

So, to answer the question posed, usually this statement means exactly what it is saying or is intended to ask you to be patient while you resolve concerns about your own life or concerns about the relationship.