One of the keys to attracting abundance into your life is to recognize the areas in which you sabotage yourself. This truth was further emphasized to me when I was rereading T. Harv Eker’s book the millionaire mind.
For me, this book is a classic. You can read it multiple times and receive more information about your personal relationship with wealth each time you review its content.
The four elements to change
If you are not a millionaire and you want to be, there is something in your life that prevents you from being one. I have found in my own practice as a psychotherapist for over 30 years, as well as in my own personal experience, that the roadblock to wealth and abundance in any area of your life is contained between your ears. Well actually, it is contained in your subconscious mind where beliefs are stored.
The four elements of change to the millionaire mind identified by T. Harv Eker are key elements for change in any area of life. are:
- Awareness
- Comprehension
- Dissociation
- Reconditioning
Self sabotage is just a bad habit
It’s not the great things you do that sabotage yourself. They are the small everyday events of your life.
I had a client who took 10 years to go to college full time before graduating. Was he stupid? No, he had bad habits… like not getting out of bed to go to class. He kept turning off his alarm and until it was too late to get to class. He was quite proud of the fact that he never failed a class more than three times.
You have changed this extremely destructive habit and have become a valued member of the team at your current workplace.
Awareness
First he had to realize that he was being self-destructive. Mom and Dad were paying his tuition, so he had no drive to finish school. Personally, I think if Mom and Dad had stopped paying tuition after her first year of college, she would have finished much sooner… but that’s another story.
Comprehension
This intellectually capable man had to come to understand why he did what he did. He had to understand his fears:
- being alone
- couldn’t succeed in the adult world
- life would never be fun again
- responsibility
Dissociation
He had to part with his fears. She did so realizing that his fears were not him. Everyone is afraid of something. That doesn’t mean fear is what you are. When he could see his gifts and talents, then he could see who he really was.
Reconditioning
To break a habit you not only have to stop doing the destructive action, you have to put something in its place. My client used:
- willpower
- goal setting
- imagining himself with his new behavior
- positive self-talk
The simplicity of the process
The four steps to becoming a millionaire mind are simple. Within each step there are sub-steps that are also easy. You simply need to act on them.