Have you ever seen a photo of someone who has had anorexia for a long time? The image usually reflects someone who is really just skin and bones, but continues to starve. For someone who has never had anorexia, it is difficult to look at such a picture and understand how the person in the picture looks in the mirror and sees a fat person who still needs to lose weight.
Without understanding the psychological aspects of anorexia, it is impossible for someone who sees himself accurately to understand how distorted the body image of an anorexic is. Because an important part of anorexia is an obsessive and overwhelming fear of being overweight, people with the disease develop a distorted body image. They don’t really see their bodies as they really are. If you tell an anorexic person that they are too thin, the person will believe that you are lying to them.
It is unlikely that someone with problematic blushing behavior will immediately see the connection between problematic blushing and anorexia, but there is an important similarity between the two conditions. The problematic behavior of blushing also has psychological links. Because people who have trouble blushing tend to be overly sensitive to other people’s opinions, whenever they feel like they’re being judged, they start to blush even more.
If you have trouble blushing, you know the overwhelming sense of shame that comes over you when you feel a blush start to creep up your neck and up your face. But here is a question to ask yourself. Do you know what your blush looks like to someone else? Do you think you look like a sunburned crab to the other person? Or is it possible that your blush really isn’t as bad as you think?
Before answering that question, remember that an 80-pound anorexic woman honestly believes she is fat. You look in the mirror and see an obese person. She thinks that when you look at her, blushing or not, you see someone who is morbidly overweight.
How do you know how other people see you? When my girlfriend found out about that in my audiobook, Blushing Free, I commented that my blushing problem reached its highest point when I met her, she was shocked. He didn’t even realize what I thought were the worst bouts of excessive blushing I’ve ever experienced.
Just as anorexics have an excessive fear of being overweight that distorts their body image, people who blush with problems have an excessive fear of blushing that distorts their perception of how blushing affects their appearance. I’m not saying that troublesome blushes don’t blush too often. As a former blushing problem, I know the blushing problem is real. What I’m saying is that as a blush problem, your perception of what the problem does to your appearance is worse than reality.
As a problem blusher, a great first step in stopping blushing is recognizing that part of your problem is tied to your fear of blushing. I’m not saying he’s making it up, but I’m saying it’s partially on his mind. When you realize that your blushing problem is not as serious as you think, and that other people may not notice or don’t care, you will be a little closer to leaving the problem of excessive blushing behind once and for all. .