What is your positive side?

Not too long ago, I found myself lamenting the trials and tribulations of this thing called my life. I am a divorced mother of three, and at that moment all I could see was a glass half full of pure bullshit. My ex and I were fighting over child support, which meant I was paying a lawyer time after time without doing anything to sit next to me and act like I was miming in front of a judge at a hearing. of child support. $5500 later, I decided I would cut my losses and throw “Mrs. Do Nothing” to the curb. So the ex didn’t want to pay more, at least I wasn’t using what he paid to support a fucking lawyer.

I receive regular mail from women from all walks of life, and some of their stories would give you the creeps. One such woman has an ex-husband who, after losing an enormous amount of weight, decided that he would rather be single. So, even before leaving the home he shared with his wife and children, he created a profile on an online dating site and found himself a “playmate”… while he was still he was married.

Then there’s the lovely lady whose husband was having an affair with one of the other moms at the school his and this other woman’s children attended. He would take this woman to the house he shared with her wife and children to have fun and play while her wife worked during the day! He is now her ex-husband, and she takes advantage of her every opportunity to make her life utterly miserable, taking her to court for every five minute change in the children’s visiting hours. He even e-mails her immature complaints on a regular basis… four-page letters that he expects her to respond to…immediately. When she doesn’t respond in any way, he contacts her lawyer and she receives one of her rants in the mail from her. She changed her email address and he sent her a 3 page letter about her disagreement with it! He sends the kids to her house with new clothes, he doesn’t come back with the kids… her ex keeps them. Never to be seen again.

My ex-husband can be an ass. There’s no doubt about that, he definitely has his moments. But compared to the ex-husbands of some of the women I get mail from, and even some I know, he’s a pair of new Jimmy Choos.

The point here is this: regardless of your situation, there is always a silver lining. Regardless of what you have to face, you could always have worse things. God only knows why I didn’t get a husband who had stones big enough to carry a woman into my bed. If that were the case, he would most likely be writing this from a jail cell by now (and something tells me he suspected it).

Find the positive side of your story. Do you know what my positive side is? My good side is that my ex doesn’t harass me by email, the clothes he sent home with the kids come back with the kids, and he hasn’t chosen to live half a block from where I live (Thank God).

Add to that, I have three healthy and happy children, I have “off” every other weekend when my “angels” are with the ex (I didn’t have that before my divorce), and life is better than I ever imagined.