Many guys have no idea what to text a girl when they first meet her. Most of the guys use average safe language which makes her not want to continue the conversation. What they lack is that it really isn’t hard to stand out a bit to get her attention. Not only that, but this can be done without the usual Pick Up Artist (PUA) lines. My goal is for you to be authentic, stay empowered, and make her want what you have to offer, not trick her into “falling in love” with you.

When I think about how to text a girl, I am reminded of tons of little tips and tricks that I use to keep the conversation flowing. Here are a couple of things to help get you moving in the right direction!

Cocky and funny text messages

This is an old school PUA routine and it works. However, I would like you to adapt the style a bit. The misunderstanding is that Cocky = Jerk this is not the case. Unfortunately, Jerk works, but you won’t really feel good about yourself or make many true connections this way. Remember, women are people too.

Being funny is killer and adding a bit of swagger is brilliant. Because? Because it communicates that you are strong, that you do not need approval. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had girls pick on me for this. For example:

Anna: God, you are so full of yourself.

Me: Thanks, I’m so glad you noticed.

Anna: You know that’s not very attractive.

Me: Of course it is! It’s as attractive as that dress you wore last Friday.

Anna: I can’t believe you mentioned the dress, that was DARE.

Me: I’m not the one who put it on!

Anna: I’ll make you wear it next time.

Me: Only if this is something private.

anna: sounds interesting…

This interaction wasn’t super pushy but it was cocky since I didn’t back down and it was fun and playful because we mentioned the dress. The key to this interaction was not apologizing after she said “you know that’s not attractive”. This is simply not true and is the equivalent of her saying “you’re so handsome doesn’t make me like you more”, lies… all lies…

Deliberate misunderstanding in a text

What to text a girl? Misunderstanding on purpose is wonderful. I like this simply because it’s fun and cute. It communicates to a girl that you’re pretty smart and makes them have to think in loops to keep up with you. Everyone is drawn to intelligence and if you can text with humor, you’ve killed two birds with one stone. Imagine her impressed with your mind AND feeling wonderful because she’s laughing. Beautiful…

Example:

Anna: I’m going out with Rachel tomorrow.

Me: Are you dating Rachel? I thought you were narrow?

ana: shut up idiot

Me: It all makes sense now, the short hair, the bad attitude.

Anna: I didn’t tell you to shut up!

Me: Hehehe!

This is pretty tame, but still illustrates the point. Deliberate misunderstandings are great fun, but try not to use them too much. Overuse makes it a bit tedious and unpleasant.