Men usually feel a lot of sexual frustration in their relationship. This is why…
HOW WOMEN LOSE INTEREST IN SEX
Every night he and his wife go to bed, he hopes and prays that she wants to have sex. He turns to her, but she rebuffs his advances. A pattern has been established.
Going to bed means you’re going to want sex. Going to bed means that sex is assumed. She knows that sex is a fact. She will only do it if she feels like it, but nothing has been done to make her feel like it. This is boring for her and frustrating for him. Worse yet…she continually reduces her interest in sex.
TOO LITTLE AND TOO LATE
A big mistake men make is that they wait until they go to bed to start foreplay. That gets boring for women. She doesn’t want sex to be assumed. And what’s worse, it makes her feel objectified; she feels that she is perceived only as a body, not as a person.
This is what most men don’t understand… You can’t wait until you go to bed to start seducing your woman. Once in bed, it’s too late.
Instead, you should always be seducing her. The seduction continues all the time. this is done with “Mental Foreplay”. Throughout the day, you should use mental foreplay to keep her at least ‘warm’ for whatever may come later.
This concept of “mental foreplay” is based on three important truths:
- Women want foreplay
- Women’s sexuality is (almost) entirely mental
- Everything between you and your wife is sex.
WOMEN LONG FOR THE PRELIMINARY GAMES!
You’ve heard this before. It has been said countless times. All men know it, but very few men do it. Women complain that their man goes straight into intercourse without even warming her up.
But here’s the key takeaway from this article, if you get nothing else, get this: don’t wait until you go to bed to start playing! I’ll give you some ideas on how to do this in a minute.
FOR WOMEN, SEX IS (ALMOST) TOTALLY MENTAL
It’s been said… For men, sex is sex, but for women, sex is everything else. There is a lot of truth in that. For a woman, sex should include much more than just intercourse. For her, it’s very mental and emotional. Consider the fact that men download porn while women read 400-page romance novels.
This does not mean that women are not horny. They are horny. More precisely, they are very sexual. More than men, and much more than most men can understand. Sexuality for a woman is of vital importance.
Of course, we are considering the mentally and emotionally healthy woman (which you should limit yourself to). Some women with very low self-esteem or emotional trauma will not respond in healthy ways, even though deep down they are truly sexual. It’s just that they will behave in ways that seem to defy logic.
EVERYTHING IS SEX
When I teach this concept to couples, the women get it right away and the men scratch their heads. So if this seems like overkill, follow my logic below.
First, let’s define some terms here. Most people think of foreplay, followed by sex. But really, foreplay is sex. When people use the term sex, they are usually referring to intercourse. But intercourse is only one of many things included in sex.
Anything you and your wife do to each other while you’re naked in the bedroom is sex. But the fact is that you don’t really need to be naked, and you don’t have to be in the bedroom. You could be petting her while you two are at the movies. So really sex is anything you and she do to stimulate each other’s genitals.
On the other hand, you don’t have to be stimulating his genitals. You could be sitting with her in a restaurant and simply commanding her to have an instant orgasm on command (yes, it’s possible…stage hypnotists do this all the time). Orgasms are sex. So sex is basically anything that stimulates her sexually.
Of course, there are many things that can stimulate her sexually. You could be narrating a sexual fantasy to her and stimulating her sexually. So simply narrating a fantasy is sex.
You could be telling her how you are going to make madly passionate love to her when you drive her home. And she stimulates her sexually. So just mentally preparing her for sex is sex.
There are many ways to mentally prepare her for sex. You mentally prepare her for sex when you tell her that you think she’s beautiful. So by definition, that could be considered sex.
I could go on and on, but you get the point…basically everything is sex!
MIND SEX
All of the things discussed above are done using “Mental Foreplay”. Inside the bedroom, foreplay is physical. Outside the bedroom it must be mental.
A woman once said, “If a man can make love to my mind, he can have me.” It is articulating the mental aspects of female sexuality.
This is what I refer to as mind sex. This goes back to my concept that everything is sex. Also, foreplay is sex, so it follows that “mental foreplay” is in fact “mental sex.”
Going back to the end, we see that mental sex begins with seduction.
SEDUCTION GOES ALL THE TIME
At all times you should be seducing your woman in some way. It can be subtle, it can be obvious. But it must always be happening.
Women love to be seduced. They love how it feels. They feel beautiful and sexy. They feel wanted. They get to feel all the things that women love to feel. And it results in them wanting to celebrate being a sensual woman.
Even in an ongoing relationship, a woman wants to be seduced by her man. Always maintain an air of sensuality. When your woman thinks of you, she must think of being seduced.
EXAMPLE OF MENTAL ANTERIOR GAME
You can even do this when the two of you are apart. A great way is to text him. They can be innocent messages with sexual innuendos or they can be blatantly sexual. Here is a generic example. It starts out innocent and turns into cheeky.
Let’s say you’ve been dating your woman for 3 months and you’ve been giving her pleasure beyond anything she’s ever known. They were together on Thursday night and will be together again on Saturday night. On Friday, while she’s at her work and you’re at work, you text her:
You: hello beautiful. You looked so beautiful to me last night.
Her: 🙂 You looked very sexy!
You: You felt so good in my arms, baby.
Her: It felt wonderful to be hugged by you, Baby.
You: I can’t wait to see you tomorrow, baby.
Her: I can’t wait to see you too! I haven’t decided what to wear yet!
You: I can’t wait to see what you’ve selected. You always look so beautiful to me.
Her: You always make me feel beautiful, Baby.
You: You always make me love you so much, baby.
Her: I love you too, Baby, very much. I’ve been thinking about you all day!
You: Have you been thinking about how much you want me to make love to you?
Her: Yes! You: Tell me how much you need me to make love to you.
Her: Honey, I need you to make passionate love to me so much!
This is so easy to do, and it’s fun. Imagine how much more fun work would be if both you and she received messages like this throughout the day. And imagine how great your date will be that night, especially if you keep up the mental foreplay ALL day and into the night.
This is powerful stuff. And I’ve only met a handful of men who do this kind of thing with their woman, so when you do, you’ll instantly distance yourself from all the other boring men in her life.
A seduced woman can become sexually aroused just as quickly as a man. In fact, even faster when she has been continually and properly seduced using Mental Foreplay.
POINTS TO TAKE:
- Never force your woman to do anything sexual, instead bring out her sexuality in her.
- Never pressure your woman to do something, instead always lead your woman mentally to want it.
- Guide your mind and let your body beg to follow.
- Make her hungry, and then when you feed her, satisfy her beyond what she knew she was capable of, leaving her even hungrier for the next time.
